I know some of my followers have kids that have started school this week. I came across an article by naturalicious discussing teach your kids to love themselves. The article made some good points but I want to share more things that can help build up a child’s self-esteem. I am no child psychologist but I do know firsthand what it feels like to have low self-esteem. I was always bullied about my features, clothes, and hair. I never told anyone I was bullied and kept it all bottled in which then lead to low self esteem. I want to share with you some things that can possibly help your child build up their self-esteem, things I wish I would have experienced growing up. View Below:
1. Tell Your Child How Beautiful They Are
As simple as it sounds this really goes a long way! Telling your child they are beautiful really helps build up their self-esteem. I never really heard this from my mom and I do not blame her for my self-esteem issues at all, I just think she was unaware. I believe if I heard this from my mom and people around me I would of have a positive mind about my appearance. Every time I see my nieces I constantly tell them how beautiful they are, how beautiful their hair is, and how much I love their smile.
2. Talk to Your Child
For me it was very hard to talk about being bullied. I never had anyone to tell it to or no one ever asked me. My mom was a single parent, working 3 jobs, trying to survive. She really did not have the time, I guess. My point is make the time to sit down with your kids and find out what is going on in their life. It is hard for kids to talk about being teased but if they know you care they will be more willing to talk.
3. Try to find dolls that possess your child’s Features (Skin, Hair, Facial Features)
When I was growing up all my dolls were white with long hair, blue eyes, and pointy nose. Looked nothing like me! I played with my dolls a lot and I really believed that was beautiful. Which it is but it made me want to look like my dolls. I wanted the long hair, blue eyes and pointy nose. If you look at the dishearten video below of Anderson Cooper’s Doll Test Study. I believe proves how what kids see most (Media, dolls, Magazines) defines how they view things. With that being said purchase your child a doll that exemplifies their beauty and uniqueness. There are so many dolls of every ethnicity and every hair texture out there.
Every time I watch this video it almost bring tears to my eyes because I was that child if asked who is the ugliest I would of pointed to my skin color.
4. Lead by Example
You are one of the biggest influences on your child. If you’re constantly talking about how much you hate your hair, or the way you look, your child will absorb and internalize all that negativity. Start by learning to love yourself and your own hair. Skye Charlie gave some good advice saying “write down every morning at least one thing you love about yourself” Speak positively about your hair and your overall beauty; your child will surely emulate you.
Low self-esteem is something I have overcome. I am very much in love with myself and my beautiful natural hair. There is no one in the world like me and I am proud to be me! 🙂
If you are and adult that may be suffering from low self - esteem check-out psychcentralAny of my sisters have any advice to build self-esteem?With Sisterly Love, Nassimbwa